(12/18/16)Armand and Robbin DAlo
Conflict is a part of life, and so exposure to it can be an important lesson in emotional literacy for kids if it is handled properly.
When people with young children divorce, they create a schedule of parenting time for each parent with the children. What happens when life disrupts this schedule?
How many times do clients come into your divorce mediation office when they aren't on the same page?
(10/14/16)Justin Kelsey, David Goodman
This article summarizes five U.S. Tax Court cases in which the Court ruled against the taxpayer on issues involving deductible alimony.
A comparison of the resolution process of two former spouses, one who chooses litigation and the other who chooses the collaborative process.
With expanded participation of women in the workforce, there is a need to adapt the workplace to pregnant and breast-feeding workers.
(7/10/16)Donald T. Saposnek
One of the most typical questions asked of me by parents who are beginning the divorce process is, “What should we tell the children and how should we tell them?”
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Maxine Baker-Jackson, former Director and Mediator, Los Angeles County Superior Court, Dependency Court, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
I remember one case that broke my heart in which I wish we could have arranged an open adoption.
The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.
(4/04/16)Karen Aurit, Michael Aurit
Three years have passed since the words “child custody” have been spoken in an Arizona courtroom. They have not been missed.
In this video I discuss the dynamics and the psychology of settlement. This is one of the first challenges I faced in my child custody dispute and it really blindsided me.
Listening skills are vital to any mediator. Listening to children is an especially effective way to stretch ourselves by entering into another mental world.
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Andrew Schepard, a leading professor, editor and writer of family law and mediation, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Many parents become caught up in the details of a separation and do not spend much time with their children. This can be misconstrued as a lack of interest.
While representing culturally diverse clients in court requires a degree of knowledge and cultural sensitivity, acting as a neutral mediator often presents even a greater challenge, – to maintain a delicate balance between honoring the cultural and religious rules and rituals that a family has and, on the other hand, helping people understand U.S. law and come up with agreements that are considered fair and legally enforceable.
Many people go into a divorce with swords pulled. They want to get even. They want to punish their spouse for making them feel bad. Humiliated. Depressed. When divorce is not your idea, you may even go into a classic defensive “stall mode” to try and drive the other person a little crazy with angst.
The Parenting Plan is the parental agreement setting out how the children will be cared for between separated parents. Essentially, the Parenting Plan is the road map that separated parents will follow for the raising of their kids.
If you get hung up on the quantum of time with your partner and your children, you may lose sight of the quality of your relationship now and for the future.
This article discusses the Hague Convention on child abductions. It gives an update on dealing with children in international custody negotiations.
(10/18/15)Kathleen O'Connell Corcoran
A well-known psychologist offers suggestions for what parents can
do to support their children's comfort and adjustment to the many
realities of divorce.
(10/15/15)Dr. Lynne C. Halem
Families who have children with special needs constitute a significant percentage of the divorced population. Children, all children, present a mixed blessing. Some times they may help to save a marriage; other times they add to the stresses of daily living in ways that parents are not able to handle.
If you are thinking about working with a divorce mediator, then this is probably one of the more difficult times in your life. To make matters even more challenging, in the midst of this emotional turmoil you are called upon to make some important family decisions. One of these decisions is how to find a divorce mediator who will be right for you and your spouse. Here are suggestions for finding a divorce mediator in Maryland.
Almost one of every four births today are to unmarried, cohabitating couples. This represents an 80% increase. It used to be that marriage was the norm when pregnancy was involved. Now it is not.
(6/17/15)Don Gordon, Jack Arbuthnot
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Here are several important issues you should think about as you design your parenting plan. A child needs the love and affection of both parents, but they also need both as teachers. These roles should override your desire to “own” your children.