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John Lande

Creating Knowledge Together

(5/12/17)John Lande

This article is about the idea that performers "making” the music may seem odd at first considering that they are “merely” performing music that others had composed.

Jacqueline Burnett-Brown

Marital Conflict is Not a Mental Health Disorder

(5/12/17)Jacqueline Burnett-Brown

When two people form a union, whether a legal union – such as marriage, or a domestic partnership, there will be conflict.

Phyllis Pollack

Jack and Jill Go Up a Hill… And Argued No More (Part 2!)

(5/08/17)Phyllis Pollack

The tribal effect is often deliberately used to manipulate and divide people. It preys upon the “us v them” mentality.

Michael A. Zeytoonian

Resolving a Dispute is like Traveling…

(4/21/17)Michael A. Zeytoonian

Resolving a Dispute is Like Traveling, Writing a Business Plan, or Choosing a Course of Medical Treatment: If you take the wrong road, you won’t get the result you want.

Tammy Lenski

Can Your Beliefs About Someone Alter Their Behavior?

(4/14/17)Tammy Lenski

If you believe someone is aggressive, could they behave more aggressively with you than with others?

Jason Dykstra

The Best Ten Minutes You'll Spend All Day

(4/14/17)Jason Dykstra

It was the breakthrough that we had been looking for. A new tool? No, it was a question that had allowed the person to reflect.

Phyllis Pollack

Jack and Jill Go Up a Hill….and Argue!

(4/07/17)Phyllis Pollack

As they are going up the hill, from out of nowhere, Jill makes an offhand but biting remark to which Jack responds negatively. The ensuing conversation gets totally off track on whether they should go up the hill and instead focuses on Jack’s personality traits and then on Jill’s personality traits.

John Lande

Fascinating Simulation of Political Mediation in Scotland

(4/03/17)John Lande

The deliberative process this mediator conducted is such a stark contrast to the sharp political polarization and poor communication in the US these days.

Maria Simpson

The Third Side

(4/03/17)Maria Simpson

Sometimes “new” information on conflict resolution sounds like what we already know, but an existing idea can be reframed and sound new all over again.

Mervyn Malamed

The Power, Rights, and Interests Hierarchy

(3/17/17)Mervyn Malamed

We tend to approach conflict situations as 'win/ lose'.

Phyllis Pollack

On Apologies…. Once Again!

(3/10/17)Phyllis Pollack

If poorly worded, an apology can only exacerbate the situation rather than ease the hurt and pain caused by the initial faux pas.

David Weiss

New Jersey Mediation will Create a Hub for Mediation of International Disputes

(3/10/17)David Weiss

David Weiss, the Director of the Institute for Dispute Resolution (IDR) at New Jersey City University. , is interviewed by Laura A. Kaster, President of the Justice Marie L. Garibaldi New Jersey Alternative Dispute Resolution Inn of Court.

Dan Simon

Social Networking Ain’t Transformative Mediation

(3/03/17)Dan Simon

Those people [who share your political perspective] are vile and despicable and should be ashamed of themselves!

Carrie Schultz

Divorce Mediation In New Jersey

(3/03/17)Carrie Schultz

This article is about the divorce mediation process, including specific recommendations for New Jersey.

Tammy Lenski

De-escalate Anger With This Straightforward Invitation

(2/24/17)Tammy Lenski

When someone is emotionally swamped by anger, it can be helpful to redirect them temporarily away from their feelings and engage their cognitive capacities.

Tammy Lenski

A Shadow Side to Good Listening

(2/17/17)Tammy Lenski

It’s hard to listen deeply from inside an argument.

Tammy Lenski

One Intriguing Reason it's Hard to Take Responsibility for Problems

(2/10/17)Tammy Lenski

The next time someone declines to take responsibility for words or actions that had a bad impact, don’t immediately assume it’s a flaw in their character.

Tammy Lenski

How to Say No Persuasively

(2/03/17)Tammy Lenski

“If you can’t say no, your yes is hollow.”

Dan Simon

Even the Best Mediation Doesn’t Eliminate Differences – Nor Should It

(2/03/17)Dan Simon

Conflicts that are resolved only to etch out a settlement are resolved in the shallowest sense.

Tammy Lenski

Two Smart Principles for Resolving Everyday Disagreements

(1/27/17)Tammy Lenski

Not all disagreements require long talks to resolve them sufficiently.

Maria Simpson

Such Interesting Language!

(1/27/17)Maria Simpson

The current linguistic environment is instructive, scary, and actually great fun.

Jan Frankel Schau

Barriers to Settlement: Fear of Regrets

(1/06/17)Jan Frankel Schau

Often times, the parties or their lawyers refuse to accept that “Last, best and final offer” because they think they will regret making the deal and not having the time and energy to take one more deposition, find the “truth”, the “smoking gun” or exact a little more pain and discomfort towards the other side.

Patricia Porter

Renewing And Strengthening Relationships In The New Year

(1/03/17)Patricia Porter

As you enter 2017, reflect and commit to being intentional on the small gifts you can provide to strengthen, honor and acknowledge those important relationships in your life. Here are some ideas to consider.

Geoff Sharp

A New Seat at the Mediation Table? The Impact of Third-Party Funding on the Mediation Process

(12/09/16)Geoff Sharp

Third party funding (TPF) of claims has been around for quite some time. Historically however, some jurisdictions have prohibited a stranger to a lawsuit financing the claim of another in return for a share of the spoils.

Tammy Lenski

Weaving the Narrative of a Conflict

(12/02/16)Tammy Lenski

Conflict takes root in the space between our narrative about what happened and theirs.

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