When people with young children divorce, they create a schedule of parenting time for each parent with the children. What happens when life disrupts this schedule?
Conflict can rob you of two precious mental faculties useful for sorting things out.
Emotions, not logic, control our decision making.
Conflict in personal, professional, and business relationships leaves permanent cracks and breaks behind. What if, instead of trying to ignore or hide the damage, we revered it, understanding that “better than new” is more valuable than “good as new”?
One of the sources of unresolved conflict at work and elsewhere can be unconscious (or conscious) bias and prejudice.
Not only can the skills of mediation be applied to many different situations, but mediation can be influenced by other areas of study as well.
(10/28/16)F. Peter Phillips
What the West Can Learn from Chinese Mediation by Peter Phillips.
This author wonders if “restorative justice” is not about forgiveness or reconciliation nor is it mediation nor is it designed to reduce recidivism. It is neither an alternative to prison nor replaces our legal system.
Imagine two parties locked in a bitter and acrimonious dispute that has gone through six years of hotly contested litigation. At issue are the ownership and control of at least a dozen commercial and residential properties valued in the tens of millions of dollars.
It’s that time of year again! Mediation Awareness Week is about to kick off in Ireland, the UK and many other countries around the world.
Recently (as part of a book club), I read The Psychology of Conflict by Raul Randolph (Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, London 2016) who is a barrister and mediator. His approach is to use existentialism as the vehicle through which to discuss the psychological aspects of mediation.
For those who still think that litigation must always be conducted in an adversarial manner--that litigants must oppose anything suggested by the other side, and bring every dispute before the court for resolution--consider that the courts are telling you otherwise.
The Olympics have come and gone with all of the emotion and inspiration they bring. In our recent, fully-subscribed, residential Summer School on mediation skills for leaders, we reflected on the learning from Rio. We watched a video replay of the men’s taekwondo -80kg final in which Team GB’s Lutalo Muhammad lost to his Ivory Coast opponent in the last second of the bout, giving the latter his country’s first ever Olympic gold medal.
Researchers discovered that when the LSU Tigers unexpectedly lose a football game, the juvenile judges take their anger/frustration at the loss out on the juveniles before them by imposing longer sentences.
Our game face, or our poker face, is the face we put on for the outside world that masks what is happening for us internally.
(9/16/16)Elly van Laar
You owe it to yourself to move to a place of compassion and empathy.
(9/02/16)Søren Braskov, Asger Neumann
This article presents a self-help tool for people in the marriage or relationship. The tool includes principles for mediation and refers to the use of a mediator if conflicts are too difficult for themselves to solve.
The bigger story when you are in a crisis is how it impacts your relationship with your spouse and what that says about your relationship.
“Anger management works – if you’re not angry.”
As mediators, it is great to reflect on the challenge and the power of finding just the right question – usually one that can’t be planned, but one that reflects an intuition about what “tweaks” the conversation could withstand and what might just provide a new direction.
Everybody seems to be angry lately, and a lot of people are writing about it.
A unique combination of nature, nurture and life experiences means that every one of us sees the world from a different perspective.
This article discusses hope and despair in the landscape of today.
Several months ago, a friend asked me how one goes about practicing forgiveness with respect to someone who persists in crossing relational boundaries, making unkind remarks, refusing to take responsibility for his/her behaviour, etc.
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Someone renting the house across the street from us has been blasting loud music very late at night, and I've been wondering how to deal with it.