(10/28/16)F. Peter Phillips
What the West Can Learn from Chinese Mediation by Peter Phillips.
This author wonders if “restorative justice” is not about forgiveness or reconciliation nor is it mediation nor is it designed to reduce recidivism. It is neither an alternative to prison nor replaces our legal system.
Imagine two parties locked in a bitter and acrimonious dispute that has gone through six years of hotly contested litigation. At issue are the ownership and control of at least a dozen commercial and residential properties valued in the tens of millions of dollars.
It’s that time of year again! Mediation Awareness Week is about to kick off in Ireland, the UK and many other countries around the world.
Recently (as part of a book club), I read The Psychology of Conflict by Raul Randolph (Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, London 2016) who is a barrister and mediator. His approach is to use existentialism as the vehicle through which to discuss the psychological aspects of mediation.
For those who still think that litigation must always be conducted in an adversarial manner--that litigants must oppose anything suggested by the other side, and bring every dispute before the court for resolution--consider that the courts are telling you otherwise.
The Olympics have come and gone with all of the emotion and inspiration they bring. In our recent, fully-subscribed, residential Summer School on mediation skills for leaders, we reflected on the learning from Rio. We watched a video replay of the men’s taekwondo -80kg final in which Team GB’s Lutalo Muhammad lost to his Ivory Coast opponent in the last second of the bout, giving the latter his country’s first ever Olympic gold medal.
Researchers discovered that when the LSU Tigers unexpectedly lose a football game, the juvenile judges take their anger/frustration at the loss out on the juveniles before them by imposing longer sentences.
Our game face, or our poker face, is the face we put on for the outside world that masks what is happening for us internally.
(9/16/16)Elly van Laar
You owe it to yourself to move to a place of compassion and empathy.
(9/02/16)Søren Braskov, Asger Neumann
This article presents a self-help tool for people in the marriage or relationship. The tool includes principles for mediation and refers to the use of a mediator if conflicts are too difficult for themselves to solve.
The bigger story when you are in a crisis is how it impacts your relationship with your spouse and what that says about your relationship.
“Anger management works – if you’re not angry.”
As mediators, it is great to reflect on the challenge and the power of finding just the right question – usually one that can’t be planned, but one that reflects an intuition about what “tweaks” the conversation could withstand and what might just provide a new direction.
Everybody seems to be angry lately, and a lot of people are writing about it.
A unique combination of nature, nurture and life experiences means that every one of us sees the world from a different perspective.
This article discusses hope and despair in the landscape of today.
Several months ago, a friend asked me how one goes about practicing forgiveness with respect to someone who persists in crossing relational boundaries, making unkind remarks, refusing to take responsibility for his/her behaviour, etc.
Someone renting the house across the street from us has been blasting loud music very late at night, and I've been wondering how to deal with it.
(7/11/16)F. Peter Phillips
Richard Nixon was responsible for many teaching moments. One of my favorites is the advance in American appreciation of the difference between the passive voice (“Mistakes were made”) and the active voice (“I made mistakes”).
Coming into a role where you are expected to get others to work together efficiently and effectively to create the best possible product or service isn’t an easy task.
Every attorney who works as a litigator knows that litigation is a stressful and often frustrating exercise.
Behind closed doors, in more than 500 locations across England and Wales, a network of National Family Mediation (NFM) services are meeting separated couples attempting to resolve their disputes over money, children and property – without a courtroom battle.
“Hey Mick, what are you doing hammering on that boulder?” To which Michelangelo responded, “There’s an angel inside and I’m trying to let it out!”
(6/06/16)Ronald S. Kraybill
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